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“The unexamined life is not worth living.” — Socrates
It took me almost 40 years to have the courage to question what I had learned and deliberately choose the life I actually wanted.
If you never question which parts of your life are actually yours, you can spend years becoming very good at living a life that does not fit you.
People often reach out to me and ask how they can find their true self.
And I understand the question because nobody really taught us how to do that.
We all know that it would probably be useful to figure out what is truly ours and what we simply inherited from our parents, teachers or society.
You hear things like, “Be yourself!”
But what the hell does that actually mean?
Honestly, I had no idea either.
It is possible that for most of your life, you have been doing things you never consciously chose. Some of those decisions may have been made for you before you were even old enough to question them. Like marriage, career or having children. Or where to live and how to live.
But let’s be honest. For many people, having some of those decisions already made can actually be comfortable because people hate making decisions.
And maybe your life works perfectly well as it is, regardless of which parts you chose consciously and which parts you inherited from the people around you.
But for me, it’s not enough.
Why? Because I want to take responsibility for my life. And even if my fate is to suffer, I would rather suffer because of my own decisions than live comfortably inside decisions somebody else made for me.