Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate them. And yes, I hope I can inspire at least one person and help improve their life a bit. If that happens, then I have achieved what I wanted. 💜
Thank you, David! It’s always nice to hear your feedback and your experiences. And I agree it’s always wonderful to see people succeed in getting off addictions regardless of their age or sex. I wish you a nice weekend.
I agree with your points. I tried to follow the same rules, but I struggle with the Instagram and sleeping early part. Also, I feel that it’s my opinion if it hurts you, I’m sorry but please don’t blame your mom using a victim mindset. She probably has her own issues that she can’t handle. We put our parents on such a high pedestal that we forget they’re human too.
Instagram is actually an easy one because you only need to delete the app once. If you want to use it again, you have to reinstall it, which creates friction, so you are less likely to do it. If you want to stop a bad habit, make it as difficult as possible.
My mother used a victim mindset to get attention. This is a fact. Yes, she also has her own issues, and she has to take responsibility for them. I do not blame her, because I take responsibility for my own problems. However, the fact that her behavior was the pattern I learned and that it led me to behave similarly explains my past behavior. That is also a fact. Our past can be an explanation for our behavior, but not a justification.
Thanks for sharing this David! I bet a lot of readers can relate (I certainly can).
What I really appreciate here is how you sidestep the whole ‘grand reinvention’ story. There’s no ‘new me’ performance, just an honest look at what stopped working and the courage to remove friction instead of piling on more pressure.
So much of the advice out there around change focuses on doing more… more discipline, more hacks, more ambition. This feels like the opposite. Less noise. Fewer self-betrayals. Clearer boundaries. And over time, a different life emerges almost as a byproduct.
You have already come a long way, and it clearly reflects your perseverance and commitment. It was truly a pleasure to read and feel all the positive changes you have already achieved, and it comes through in your words that this journey is far from over. Perseverance and consistency have truly borne fruit. You can be proud of yourself, and I wish you continued success in the future as well! 👊✨👏👏👏
Thank you for reading it, Ágnes. And yes, the journey has barely started. I have figured out who I am, and I have also accepted myself. From now on, I want to enjoy the things I love more, and I want to become the best version of myself. There were many barriers in my mind that stopped me from trying, but now I feel free to push my limits. Where is the end? I will surely reach it one day. Thank you for your kind words. 🎉🫶💜
Reading this, I can see how hard you are trying to make those changes. Well done…your writing will surely help and inspire others too! 💛
Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate them. And yes, I hope I can inspire at least one person and help improve their life a bit. If that happens, then I have achieved what I wanted. 💜
I'm proud of you!
I was the medical director Chemical Dependency unit
So energizing see people like you getting into AA, SUCCEEDING.
In open AA meetings, I saw many triumphs, both sexes, all ages!
Thank you, David! It’s always nice to hear your feedback and your experiences. And I agree it’s always wonderful to see people succeed in getting off addictions regardless of their age or sex. I wish you a nice weekend.
I agree with your points. I tried to follow the same rules, but I struggle with the Instagram and sleeping early part. Also, I feel that it’s my opinion if it hurts you, I’m sorry but please don’t blame your mom using a victim mindset. She probably has her own issues that she can’t handle. We put our parents on such a high pedestal that we forget they’re human too.
Instagram is actually an easy one because you only need to delete the app once. If you want to use it again, you have to reinstall it, which creates friction, so you are less likely to do it. If you want to stop a bad habit, make it as difficult as possible.
My mother used a victim mindset to get attention. This is a fact. Yes, she also has her own issues, and she has to take responsibility for them. I do not blame her, because I take responsibility for my own problems. However, the fact that her behavior was the pattern I learned and that it led me to behave similarly explains my past behavior. That is also a fact. Our past can be an explanation for our behavior, but not a justification.
Thanks for sharing this David! I bet a lot of readers can relate (I certainly can).
What I really appreciate here is how you sidestep the whole ‘grand reinvention’ story. There’s no ‘new me’ performance, just an honest look at what stopped working and the courage to remove friction instead of piling on more pressure.
So much of the advice out there around change focuses on doing more… more discipline, more hacks, more ambition. This feels like the opposite. Less noise. Fewer self-betrayals. Clearer boundaries. And over time, a different life emerges almost as a byproduct.
This comment means a lot. You really got it.
I spent so long thinking I needed to become someone else to change. Turns out I just needed to stop doing the things that were keeping me stuck.
The different life as a byproduct part you mentioned, that's exactly how it happened.
I didn't force transformation. I just removed friction and made space. The rest followed.
Thanks for reading. <3
You have already come a long way, and it clearly reflects your perseverance and commitment. It was truly a pleasure to read and feel all the positive changes you have already achieved, and it comes through in your words that this journey is far from over. Perseverance and consistency have truly borne fruit. You can be proud of yourself, and I wish you continued success in the future as well! 👊✨👏👏👏
Thank you for reading it, Ágnes. And yes, the journey has barely started. I have figured out who I am, and I have also accepted myself. From now on, I want to enjoy the things I love more, and I want to become the best version of myself. There were many barriers in my mind that stopped me from trying, but now I feel free to push my limits. Where is the end? I will surely reach it one day. Thank you for your kind words. 🎉🫶💜